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May 02, 2015

1. permanent
2. pervasive and
3. personal

Its an unfortunate shortcoming of language that adjectives get conflated with nouns and the way words are used in a specialised context are confused with the way they are used in an every day context.

You can say “I have narcissistic traits” and be absolutely correct but still be a million miles away from “narcissistic personality disorder”.

There are online tests you can do for NPD or you can see if you match more than 5 of the following 9 traits:

Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)

Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)

Requires excessive admiration

Has a very strong sense of...

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Mar 25, 2015

20 Signs you are with a covert narcissist

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Mar 24, 2015

People, post NPD abuse often are left with a lingering worry that they themselves be a narcissist as a result of the abuse.

Recently I was asked this question on an SLC facebook post about covert narcissists (original post here)

“Is it common for victims of narcissistic abuse to become covert narcissists themselves? What causes some to develop codepedency/cptsd and others to develop narcissistic traits I wonder?”

Richard Grannon The Spartan Life Coach If youre sat worrying over your moral conduct and whether you might be a narc its highly unlikely that you are a malignant NPD as they lack the ability to self reflect and really wouldn’t care even if they could.

Abigayle is right, its just a symptom of the abuse you have experienced that makes you doubt yourself and your reality deeply.

Sharon let me tell you why I would put money on you NOT being any kind of narcissist:

I’ve gottn pretty good at picking up narc/bpd communication styles even via fb yt...

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Dec 18, 2014

I’ve started a podcast, you can subscribe here

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Download the 40 minute free podcast on tips to overcome procastination here

hope you enjoy it let me know what you think in the comments below!

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Oct 15, 2014


1. pick 20 core values from the following list of 400

2. chop the 20 down to just 10

3. put the 10 in order of importance


  1. Abundance
  2. Acceptance
  3. Accessibility
  4. Accomplishment
  5. Accountability
  6. Accuracy
  7. Achievement
  8. Acknowledgement
  9. Activeness
  10. Adaptability
  11. Adoration
  12. Adroitness
  13. Advancement
  14. Adventure
  15. Affection
  16. Affluence
  17. Aggressiveness
  18. Agility
  19. Alertness
  20. Altruism
  21. Amazement
  22. Ambition
  23. Amusement
  24. Anticipation
  25. Appreciation
  26. Approachability
  27. Approval
  28. Art
  29. Articulacy
  30. Artistry
  31. Assertiveness
  32. Assurance
  33. Attentiveness
  34. Attractiveness
  35. Audacity
  36. Availability
  37. Awareness
  38. Awe
  39. Balance
  40. Beauty
  41. Being the best
  42. Belonging
  43. Benevolence
  44. Bliss
  45. Boldness
  46. Bravery
  47. Brilliance
  48. Buoyancy
  49. Calmness
  50. Camaraderie
  51. Candor
  52. Capability
  53. Care
  54. Carefulness
  55. Celebrity
  56. Certainty
  57. Challenge
  58. Change
  59. Charity
  60. Charm
  61. Chastity
  62. Cheerfulness
  63. Clarity
  64. Cleanliness
  65. Clear-mindedness
  66. Cleverness
  67. Closeness
  68. Comfort
  69. Commitment
  70. Community
  71. Compassion
  72. Competence
  73. Competition
  74. Completion
  75. Composure
  76. Concentration
  77. Confidence
  78. Conformity
  79. Congruency
  80. Connection
  81. ...
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Jul 02, 2014

How to induce emotional dysregulation through “shock tactics” and adrenaline spiking.

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